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Dear Me, Thank you

FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) In the same context, I would also like to share how
is a well-known phenomenon important it is to show some appreciation to yourself.
amongst millennials. We tend Gratitude is one of the most powerful emotions that
to be participative in many human kind can feel. While it fills your heart with
things, which we are not really happiness, it certainly makes the day better for the
interested in. Most common person who receives it. Since childhood, we are
example would be, numerous always taught to thank everyone, who participates in
whatsapp groups, which we our life journey, in a big or small way. Our Family,
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are a part of. We give in, to feel teachers, neighbours, friends, colleagues, everyone
included. When I saw a younger sibling behaving has received a “Thank You”, at least once. Believers of
more according to the group dynamics, rather than Law of Attraction, including me, know that Gratitude
what she would have liked herself, it made me think is the most powerful feeling known to mortals.
about evolution. Man is a social animal, is what we all Have you ever thanked yourself for anything good that
have been studying since childhood. Human sought has happened in your life? Have you ever said, “I am
company, community & that’s how civilization grew. so thankful to myself, for getting me through a tough
What we never realized is, in the process of being more situation”? If you fall down & someone helps you get
like community, a person started becoming less like up, you thank that person, but do you ever thank
himself. “I am okay with anything” is a sentence we yourself when you get up on your own? In the present
all have used, heard & repeated, whether it is about an times, where satisfaction largely depends upon, how
outing with friends, eating in a group or choice of you exhibit it, is it wise to ignore yourself?
music. While it is essential to mingle, is it right to
Can we start it now? Can we give ourselves some
forego yourself, for the fear of being single?
credit too, for life going the way it is planned? Instead
I read somewhere, love yourself, to be loveable. In the
of saying “Oh God, I goofed up again”, can we say
long journey of being one with all, most of us have
“yayy, I did better this time”. Appreciating yourself for
forgotten to be with ourselves. We all have our own
at least one small thing daily has scientifically proven
bucket lists & many of these lists include a solo trip,
results to boost your confidence, to make your day
have you ever thought why? Because spending time
better. When you like yourself, you would definitely
alone, is a big deal nowadays. We all need some
want to spend more time with yourself & giving time
external stimuli to feel engaged, be it a movie, an
to the one most important person of your life, will
outing with friends, a web series etc. We never try to do
provide many results, starting from better focus, more
nothing, cause staying alone & doing nothing is just
mental peace & a bit more Zen in our life. Can we have
not what we would spend our time on.
our own Thanksgiving right now?
I learnt this lesson the hard way. Being a young
I thank myself, for being me, in spite of so many things
mother, I never realized how much attention I pay to
to change my belief, so many circumstances, where it
keep my child engaged, with toys, books, friends &
was easier to give in, I stayed myself. I thank myself to
everything else possible under the sun. I never used to
be the best version of a daughter, a sister, a friend, a
let her figure out what to do when you get bored. When
spouse, a mother that I can be. I may not be perfect, but
I spoke to her teacher, I got to know, most kids these
like Geet from Jab We Met, “Main Apni Favourite
days need some activity, otherwise they get bored a lot.
Hoon”. I thank myself to be able do the best I can, in
An alarm rang in my mommy brain & I did something
professional aspects. I thank myself, for being a good
which I didn’t think of doing ever, I started letting my
human & trying to be better every day.
child feel bored & the results I got were so much better
than my expectations. My child, all of 2.5 years,
became more observant, started figuring out the ways
to play with nothing. This experiment made me
realize, why human is less innovative now, because
most of the times, we have more than what we need.

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